People tend to react to other people in wholesale rather than in detail, right? He's a minister, so I hate him. She's beautiful, so I like her. One month later you wake up and realize you have nothing in common with the woman.

Ted Dekker
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This quote explains the so-called "thin-slicing" effect. That is, people tend to judge people in general terms, rather than in particular details. For example, many people say they hate religion when in reality they are only annoyed by the religion of their neighbors. When you are judging someone, you are looking for general qualities that are applicable to everyone.

You are not taking into account the small details that make that person unique. If you take the time to look at each little thing about an individual, you realize that there is a lot more to them than meets the eye.

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